Saturday, April 17, 2010

About Apologies....Part Two

Several people commented on yesterday's blog entry via my Facebook page. I'd like to address one comment in particular. Ljo Aktiv wrote:

"What if there is supposed to be apologies from both parties and only one has given their apology? (Even if some people have said it is not a proper apology.) Isn't the other party who is being apologized to obligated to offer a counter apology for their part that started this whole explosive exchange of words? Just curious how this whole etiquette thing works in situations like this!"

Good question, Ljo. In The Last Lecture Pausch stated that if someone owes us an apology, we should not let that be the focus. Our focus, rather, should be on who we owe apologies to because of what we have done. He further explained that some people may not respond to our sincere apologies, but more often than not, most do later down the road. People need to be at that right emotional place.

Have a joyful day everyone. - Rita
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1 comment:

  1. That makes sense, the other party has to come to terms with everything that has happened and realize that if they both apologise and let it go they can move on and not focus on negative things that have happened. Everyone has exploded at a friend or a spouse in the heat of the moment and we can never quite trust what is going to come out of our mouths! I have done it, others have done it to me and we all hope we don't take it to heart and we move on! Forgiveness is a wonderful tool. Lets all get it out of the tool shed of life and use it!